In this bitchy world of today do you really have true friends?
It is such a cleche.....friendship is based on honesty, trust and acceptance. Does those factors really take place in the modern era? As for honesty I personally have been backstabbed so many times its not even funny. As far as I can remember my trust was betrayed and that made me build a cage around myself. but than again im slowly but surely out growing that cage, because it keeps you from exploring yourself and letting people into your heart and life. Trust is the core of any relationship and letting someone into your heart is a personal risk.
Honesty is so nasty. Being truely honest and open is sometimes shocking and devastating. Everyone has their own personal issues their struggling with and being honest about anything and everything entails alot of will power. One always consider your friends reaction to the action, the judgement calls, your relationship with your friend and many other critial limitations you set for yourself. So now you ask yourself is it worth being honest about something, despite the fact that you might loose your friend? Honestly, yes if one is not truely upfront and honest the friendship will be based on a lie as you are building up a wall of lies to your friend. Being dishonest keeps your friend from exploring you as a person, as you do not submit to what is bothering you or you may find a problem with.
Honesty can sometimes be directly linked to acceptance. One must accept each other no matter what. Okey so we all have a criteria, standards and certain expactations as to how are friends should be. But are we creating an avatar or are we simply out of touch with reality? We live in a diverse world....people from different social, political, economical and educational backrounds. It is sometimes highly unlikely that we will find someone that will measure up to our own standards, well only we who set the standards can do it. We are all unique individuals, we simply have to ambrace it, otherwise living in extreme hate will be our calling.
Having A TRUE FRIEND is like searching for a scarce beautiful flower. If you find it, hold onto it cause you may never find it again, but for now enjoy, embrace and accept the once you hav now. You may be surprised in what you discover in the once you have.
