Shaunn

Shaunn

Sunday, 11 November 2012

Reveal yourself behind the next person`s shadow!


Have you ever come across a situation where you have lived your life through someone else? Where you have been upstaged by someone else`s talent. Where your spotlight has been stolen. Where you did not let your bright star shine?

Well to be truly honest the only person that stood in your path was YOU!!! Well living your life through someone else is a fear of being yourself. Such a sad story, but who is to blame but nobody but  you. Everyone has their personal issue that is keeping them back from  being awesome. Whether it is fear of  rejection by your peers, a societal no-no, your own insecurities or maybe not loving yourself enough to allow others to love you. Whatever the situation is, you are responsible for all of the above. Considering rejection by your peers is seemingly not having the courage themselves too be true too who they are, thus not giving you the space or the opportunity to be yourself. In this regard it would be a matter of not wanting to stand out but rather to fit in. Honestly you are doing it to yourself. Rejection in its own package can break you, but in the end make you a stronger person than you will ever be. To a great extend we do live in a societal constructed  world, where society provides the basis on how to live life and what is or is not acceptable. In this regard you are defining yourself according to someone else`s norms and  values, thus not allowing to discover the real you. Therefore you are not risking to bend or break the “societal norms” too put  yourself on a personal path of growth. Thus you are your only limiting factor.

There is an old saying that goes “Be yourself is the worst advice you can give to some people”. So what you are weird, random and sometimes stupid, at least you are being true to yourself. To me being yourself is the best advice you could give anyone. Staying true to you is the best way of still staying sane to humanity. How could one expect others to love, respect and accept you as a person if you do not love, respect and accept yourself? Love, respect and accept yourself enough to allow others to accept you.

Monday, 14 May 2012

Question your actions!

Question your actions!
Living in a fast moving world, where everything is being done hush-hush, you tend do everything so fast you never stop and ask yourself”is what I am doing right”?
Days, months, years goes by where things are being done fast you never tend to look back and question your actions. I mean seriously who can blame you? If brushing your teeth takes less than two minutes, showering less than ten minutes, finishing a ten page essay five minutes before it has to be handed in, who needs time to think things through or make sure it is being done correctly and diligently? Well that is the problem.
Sometimes one is so busy finishing everything that you forget about the process of doing it. Doing things without questioning yourself might not affect you directly but hurt the people around you. Reality check, these things do catch up with you and you end up getting hurt the most. Being realistic, in the heat of the moment anything can be done or said that would hurt an individual. That is the basic human impulsive act, but does it need to be this way? But hey, who am I to judge? Attacking people causes enormous damage to you as a person and the victim in the situation. Inevitably, words are sharper than army Swiss knifes. It is true, saying things to hurt people makes you feel good about yourself for stingy ten minutes. Omg! That is the best ten minutes of your entire life, because you achieved something, you defeated someone, you finally got it right to demolish and degrade someone. But what happens after your ten minutes of shine? What happens after your so called “victory”? Do you still crown yourself as putting up the best show your friends have ever seen?
Let`s be honest, you feel so shit about yourself not even holy water can wash away what you are feeling at that stage. The blatant truth, you did do or say something that hurt the victim but then again you end up feeling the bruises in your soul. In some cases those bruises become evident in your daily life. At some stage you end up rejecting yourself, who knows. Either way, your own actions caused your own heartache. Not even rehab can rehabilitate your inner hurt.
Controlling yourself in a situation where you are being verbally or physically attacked is difficult. Too be disciplined, calm and collected when humiliation is staring you in the face is the most difficult self-restraining act ever. Oh goodness! It takes a shit load of guts. But questioning yourself and your actions is “slightly” easier. Ten seconds to question yourself is all it takes to save you from traumatizing heartache. Ask yourself: Is my actions fair towards me and the individual beside me? Is it worth the energy, planning and effort? Will I be able to carry the consequences? Am I “morally” right? Whom am I trying to spite? Who will end up getting hurt the most? These questions are applicable to different individuals, in different ways. I guess the moral of the story is; take time in life to question your actions and yourself.